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He never texts first She still watches her ex's stories He always cancels last minute She introduces me to all her friends He likes all his ex's photos
🚩 RED FLAG
82%
Ah yes, the classic "tu es trop sensible". "YOU DON'T HAVE AN EMOTIONAL PROBLEM. YOU HAVE A PEOPLE PROBLEM." Ce comportement s'appelle le gaslighting émotionnel — il invalide ce que tu ressens pour ne jamais avoir à remettre en question ses propres actes. C'est pas un défaut de communication, c'est une stratégie. Et franchement ? Si à chaque fois que tu parles de toi le souci vient de "comment tu le dis" plutôt que de ce qu'il a fait... fais tes valises mentalement.
🚩 Gaslighting 🚩 Manipulation 🚩 Emotional Invalidation
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❤️ Dating · 🚩 Likely red flag
2h ago
He's charming with everyone except me. In public he's perfect — the moment we're alone he turns cold and critical.
🚩 Red flag — 78% 22% — 🟢
💬 3.2k votes 👤 Anonymous
👔 Work · 🚩 Likely red flag
5h ago
My boss expects me to be available on weekends "just in case" — no overtime pay. He calls it "company culture".
🚩 Red flag — 94% 6% — 🟢
💬 5.8k votes 👤 Anonymous
❤️ Dating · 🟢 Likely green flag
1d ago
After our first fight, he asked what I was really feeling and listened without getting defensive. Then he said "I get it, I should have done better".
🚩 5% 95% — 🟢 Green flag
💬 9.1k votes 👤 Anonymous
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She started bringing up her ex on every date and compares everything I do to what he used to do...

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Says "you're too sensitive" in every argument
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Reads your messages and goes silent for hours
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Constantly compares you to their ex — favorably
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Apologizes without making excuses
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Introduces you to their people early on
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"You're too sensitive" — said every time you express something
❤️ Dating · Relation
94%
142,847 votes
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Reads your messages, doesn't reply, but is active everywhere else
❤️ Dating · Amitié
91%
98,213 votes
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Talks about their ex positively on every date
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89%
87,441 votes
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Systematically cancels the same day
❤️ Dating · Amitié
87%
76,329 votes
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Boss who expects weekend availability "just in case"
👔 Work
94%
68,902 votes
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